What’s It Like Being a Dad?

What’s it like being a dad?

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Happy Father’s Day!

Who’s Your Daddy?

Food trucks, delivery trucks, pick-up trucks, DNA-testing trucks. DNA trucks? Yup, you read that right.

DNA-TruckFor the sake of accuracy, the Who’s Your Daddy Truck is not actually a truck, it’s an RV converted into a portable office and clinic. Rolling through the streets of New York City, targeting low-income neighborhoods, operator Jared Rosenthal describes his services as “very approachable, very accessible, and very available to the community.” 

The truck is affiliated with Health Street, a testing company based in New York but which partners with clinics around the country and even with the U.S. Consulate.

For $350. and a cheek swab, you receive your DNA lab test results in a few days. The truck also provides drug testing and breathalyzer analysis. 

Rosenthal notes, “DNA really gets at a person’s identity, it gets to the core of their identity, who your parents are, who your children are, how you define yourself ethnically and culturally.” He adds, “Our clients are looking for answers – and the answers are not always what they expect.”

No matter how flawed our fathers may be, we want to know.

Who’s your daddy? The Urban Dictionary identifies this question as an insult, a taunt hurled at others to demonstrate authority, power, or domination.

But as Rosenthal observed, it also gets to the essence of who we are. Our heavenly Father knows this. He created us with an insatiable hunger to know Him.

Mathematician and physicist Blaise Pascal, said it this way in his book, Pensees:

“What else does this craving, and this helplessness, proclaim but that there was once in man a true happiness, of which all that now remains is the empty print and trace? This he tries in vain to fill with everything around him, seeking in things that are not there the help he cannot find in those that are, though none can help, since this infinite abyss can be filled only with an infinite and immutable object; in other words by God himself”.

This quote has since been boiled down to the more familiar statement, “There is a God-shaped vacuum in the heart of every man.”

We have a desperate need to know our heavenly Father. The security that comes from knowing the God of the Universe as “papa” or “daddy” gives us the confidence to face whatever life brings in our earthly families. And He offers that relationship through the sacrifice of His Son, Jesus Christ.

Your earthly father may be a compassionate man. He may be a selfish man. Or he may be somewhere between the two, as most human beings are.

Regardless of who your earthly father is – whether you know him or not, whether you like him or not – seek a relationship with your heavenly Father. He is the One who will give you the answers you crave, the identity you need, and the salvation that means the difference between life and death.

Father or Daddy?

Is there a difference between a father and a daddy?

Almost any man can be a father. It’s a biological process requiring the fertilization of an ovum. But a daddy? That can be another matter.

Father is a title. The role of a father demands honor and respect. They can be loving but distant. A father can also be an absentee father. An abusive father. A neglectful father.

There’s another layer to fatherhood. There are fathers…and there are daddies.

Daddies are accessible. Caring. They want the best for you…always. Daddies aren’t perfect, but they are motivated by sacrificial love. They make mistakes, but they aren’t afraid to ask for forgiveness.

Their hearts are invested in their children. Daddies listen to what their children say and don’t say. They are their kids’ biggest cheerleaders. Daddies give their children loving discipline to prepare them to spread their wings and fly to new heights.

Even if a man’s father failed to show him how to be a daddy, every man has the perfect Father as a role model. You know what’s coming, don’t you?

God is both our Father and our Daddy.

Jesus called God Father. But He also called God Abba – the Aramaic word for Daddy.

Three times in the New Testament, Jesus called God Abba, Father.

“‘Abba, Father,’ he said, ‘everything is possible for you. Take this cup from me. Yet not what I will, but what you will.’”

This combination of the two names reflected God’s role as both sovereign Father and intimate Daddy of Jesus…and of us.

The Parable of the Prodigal Son (Luke 15) is a wonderful illustration of this dual perspective on the fatherhood of God.

In New Testament times, it was considered humiliating for a father to be seen running in public. Especially so for him to be seen running to a rebellious son. Yet in this parable, Jesus used the image of a father running to welcome his son (Luke 15:20) as a picture of how our Abba Father welcomes us into intimate relationship with him despite our own rebellion.

Honor your father this Father’s Day. Enjoy your daddy this Father’s Day. Most of all, regardless of how wonderful or disappointing your earthly father is or was, remember that, by faith in Christ, your heavenly Father is also your Abba and you are His precious child.

As you celebrate Father’s Day this weekend, what are you most thankful for in your earthly father? What are you most thankful for in your heavenly Father?

Not My Father

Few things are as heartrending as a father who betrays the trust of his children. Stories about children who have been physically and sexually abused are tragic. When the abuser is the child’s own father or a father figure, the reports are even more appalling. Yet these crimes are becoming horribly commonplace.

Even more heartbreaking is the knowledge that those who have been betrayed by their earthly fathers often go on to reject their heavenly Father. They find it painful to relate to any father figure, including God.

But God isn’t just another imperfect father figure. He’s not a deadbeat dad, a philandering papa, or an absentee parent. He is the perfect, holy creator of the universe. He is faithful, righteous, and just. He is always present, loving, and merciful.

The failure of earthly fathers has led to a dismaying movement in our society: the denial of the fatherhood of God. This growing movement to deny God as Father permeates our society with dangerous results. If He is not our Father, then we are not accountable to Him. If we are not accountable to Him, then sin is not a problem. And if sin is not a problem, then we do not need a Savior. The consequences of this rationale are more than terrible – they’re eternal.

God is not restricted by human sexuality, but He has chosen to reveal Himself in His Word through male images. He described Himself as both the Father of the nation of Israel (Hosea 11:1) and our Father (Matthew 6:9). He sent His Son, the second person of the Trinity to show us the Father (John 14:9).

For some, earthly fathers have been a blessing – a living picture of the relationship our heavenly Father wants to have with us. For others, earthly fathers have been a source of harm. No matter what our family circumstances, good or bad, we must be careful not to allow imperfect, earthly fathers to overshadow our view of our perfect heavenly Father.

The parent-child relationship we have with God begins with our relationship with Jesus Christ. John 1:12 tells us, “To all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God.” We cannot become a child of God, with the privilege of calling Him Father, without believing in His Son, Jesus.

Once we can call God Father, the more intimate our relationship with the Lord, the easier it is for us to trust His character and His ways. Our heavenly Father may allow circumstances that will be painful in the short term, but although they may hurt, they will never harm us. The God of creation is also our Savior and Redeemer. He is always working for our ultimate good and for His glory.

Whether we are teaching our own children or others, writing fiction or non-fiction, or influencing those around us in a variety of other ways, let’s be sure to affirm God as our perfect Father. Regardless of positive or negative experiences with earthly fathers, begin by celebrating the greatness of our heavenly Father this Father’s Day.